Repair over perfection - a holiday survival guide
You're Going to Snap
You're exhausted. Overstimulated. Touched out. Running on fumes and forced cheer. At some point, you're going to snap at your partner, your kid, your mother.
It's not a character flaw. It's December.
Perfection Isn't the Goal
The goal isn't getting through the holidays without losing it. That's unrealistic and sets you up to feel like shit when you inevitably crack.
The goal is repair.
What Repair Actually Is
Repair isn't a grand apology speech. It's acknowledging what happened and reconnecting.
"I snapped at you earlier. I'm sorry. I was overwhelmed and you didn't deserve that."
That's it. No big explanation about your childhood or how hard everything is right now. Just: I fucked up, I see it, I'm sorry.
When You Can't Do It Immediately
Sometimes you're still too activated to repair in the moment. That's fine. Say "I need a minute, but I want to come back to this" - and then actually come back to it.
The repair doesn't have to be perfect. It just has to happen.
The Real Skill
The measure of a good relationship isn't never messing up. It's what you do after you mess up.
You're going to get it wrong this month—multiple times. What matters is that you come back.
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Take care,
Siobhan ✌🏼
