You Know What It Is
That conversation you keep putting off. The boundary you need to set. The thing you said you'd address "when the time is right."
The time is never right. You're just avoiding it.
Why We Avoid
Avoidance feels like protection. If you don't bring it up, you don't have to deal with the discomfort. If you don't set the boundary, you don't risk the conflict.
But avoidance doesn't make things go away. It makes them grow.
What's Actually Happening
Every time you avoid the thing, you're reinforcing that it's too big to handle. You're teaching yourself that you can't cope with the discomfort, so you don't try.
Meanwhile, the thing you're avoiding is taking up space in your head, affecting how you show up, building resentment, making everything else harder.
The Practical Step
Name it. Out loud. To yourself or to someone you trust.
"I've been avoiding talking to my partner about money."
"I need to set a boundary with my mother and I keep chickening out."
You don't have to solve it today. You just have to stop pretending it's not there.
What Changes
Once you name it, it gets smaller. Not gone - smaller. Manageable.
The avoidance is usually worse than the thing itself.
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Take care,
Siobhan ✌🏼
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